Becoming a foster parent will change a lot of things in your life, and that may include your friendships with other adults who don’t have kids. The good news is that you can hold onto your relationships, and maybe make them even stronger, if you’re ready and willing to work on it. Here are some suggestions for how foster parents can connect with their friends without kids.
You and your friends will both need to adjust to your new circumstances. You may feel like they don’t understand your new responsibilities and priorities. They may worry that you don’t have as much time for them. Discussing your concerns openly and respectfully could draw you closer together. Keep in mind that your friends may also be unfamiliar with the foster care system, so be patient if they have questions.
Keep Things in Perspective:
It’s natural for you to be excited about welcoming your foster children into your home. Just remember that your friends will probably be more accepting if you remember that your life is different from your friends but not superior. They may be just as busy with other activities that they find meaningful and fulfilling. You can probably stay friends if you’re both open to accommodating each other.
Support Each Other:
As always, healthy friendships depend on give and take. Let your friends know what you need, and accept graciously if they volunteer to help out. Maybe they would love an opportunity to read stories to children or join you for a family dinner. You’ll benefit from the extra hands, and your foster children’s lives will be enriched by their exposure to a wider circle of caring and responsible adults.